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Ghosts

There are things in life that haunt us. The human mind has the incredible ability to seemingly forget all of the wonderful things we have accomplished and the good memories and instead torture us with every single mistake we have ever made. It’s easy to dwell on the little “I should have”‘s or the “I didn’t”‘s.

I shouldn’t have slept with that guy.

Sleeping with a total stranger was something totally against my personality and totally out of character for me. I barely knew him but there was fire and there was a raw carnal need that I simply didn’t wish to deny. I do not, for a second, regret any moment spent with him. I regret nothing that I did. However, I do regret perhaps pushing the situation. He asked me on dates a couple of times, but they never came to pass. Even though he swore it wasn’t, it was just sex. I didn’t want to get attached and he was a basket case. There was one night where we were trying to keep quiet because my roommate was home. Trying to keep quiet changed things. The sex was different. It was much more sensual and much slower. Looking at him in the moonlight, my heart was stirred. I think that he felt something too because I only saw him one other time after that. He acted strangely when he dropped me off at my house, kissing me but not trying to come upstairs. After the traditional phone call on his drive home, I never heard from him again.

For a while I tortured myself over what I could have done differently and what I probably said to make him vanish like that. I mean, when a guy you’re having sex with just up and disappears, it must have been something I did, right? Wrong. He was a mess. He had commitment issues and personality issues and depression issues – I was very serious when I said “basket case”. I came to the conclusion that it wasn’t my fault and that I felt slighted and cheap because I’d made myself available to a man I barely knew. Yes, he threw me aside, but I put myself in the position to be tossed out in the first place. I’ll accept some of the guilt here, but I miss it every day. He was handsome and wonderful to be around. He had everything going for him, but he was “50 shades of fucked up”.

So tonight, I was alone at an early screening of 50 Shades of Grey. It has been two and a half months since this guy vanished and then in he walks with a girl. First thought: “Oh fuck. Of all the places.” Second thought: “He moved on,” (even though it’s been almost three months and I assumed he had another girl within a week). Third thought: “I’m way hotter than her.” While the third thought was very conceited and totally unlike me, it was the pep talk I needed to recover from the slap in the face. What made her better than me? Then it occurred to me that she might just be his next victim and that they could have just met. He didn’t do the relationship thing so it’s likely he has gone through a handful of women between our time together and her.

He didn’t see me as far as I know, and they took a seat near the front of the theater. Now here is the secret…He reminded me of Christian Grey. He was rough and it was like a whole different person took over his body when it came to sex. He didn’t take his shirt off the first few times we had sex and he was pretty secretive about most of his life. So here I am, sitting in a theater, thinking about a man that is sitting less than twenty feet from me. Of course.

The movie was very well done and they perfectly portrayed the heartache and the raw passion that was there. I left the theater feeling all of their heart break as well as mine. Tonight I feel like I am the only person on this Earth.

I want passion and fire. I want someone to look at me the way that he looked at her. I want someone to want me so badly that he just takes me then and there. I want crazy, hot sex. I’ve always been a hopeless romantic. I’ve always wanted the love that is so intense that it threatens to consume you and results in steamy, sleepless nights full of kisses and desire. Tonight I had to come to terms with the fact that I don’t think that Alan is that kind of guy. I can’t see him throwing me on the couch and having his way with me. I was watching this movie and thinking of an old fuckbuddy instead of the love of my life.

Alan and I have only spent one night together. It was steamy and full of desire and longing. I was still a virgin so we didn’t have sex. Perhaps that is why I can’t see him that way. I am hoping that’s why, because I don’t want to imagine a world without either one of the things that I have grown to want most out of life.

And on a night when I’m haunted by ghosts and bad endings and I feel like the only person alive, I can’t have the only thing that would comfort me and soothe my fears. I can’t have him here.

Old Habits

Part of growing up is moving on and becoming a different person than you were when you were younger. You are expected to experience things in life, fall in and out of love, make friends and memories that you’ll smile about when you’re older, and even make mistakes that continue to mold you.

While I have had some serious memory-making this past six months, I also broke a cardinal rule of growing up. I back tracked.

First, let me tell you about my recent experiences.

Over Christmas break my routine was very simple. I woke up, went to work, went out to a bar, and went to sleep. I did that almost every day for thirty days. I saw all kinds of different Memphis bars that I never would’ve seen otherwise. I tried new drinks and got to know some of my coworkers better. I went to a Speakeasy and stayed up all night way too often. On what was supposed to be a relaxing break, I ended up more tired and worn out than I was at the beginning of it.

Last semester I met a guy and slept with him quite a few times though we weren’t dating and I barely knew him. The sex was incredible and he was thrilling and edgy and outgoing in ways that helped me escape my comfort zone. After three or four weeks he just vanished. He had personal, emotional issues that I’m assuming caused him to run. I don’t regret a minute spent with him. I always wanted to have that hot and heavy one night stand kind of thing and even though that lasted more than a night, he was still a basic stranger with a hot body and a smile that could turn you on.

On New Years Eve I met up with a girl that I’d met on Tinder. We ended up making out and messing around in the bathroom. She turned out to be batshit crazy and I never spoke to her again after that night, but that was another bucket list thing that I got out of the way. My only regret is that I spent New Years Eve in a bathroom stall. That night kind of sucked but you live and learn. At least now I know I’m not a lezzie.

I also slept with two of my friends over the break. I really didn’t want either one to happen and they happened way too close together. Actually, it happened in 24 hours. The first one I felt obligated to and the second one kind of just happened even though I didn’t want it to. I said I didn’t want to and he kind of pushed me into it. Afterward I curled up in the fetal position and nearly cried. It was pretty terrible. I avoided them both for the rest of the break as best I could. That couple of days also fall in the mistake department.

I also went skiing and had the time of my life. I hung out with a cute boy and saw all kinds of bad things, but that night is one of my favorites.

So it was an eventful break.

Then, last Wednesday something magical happened. The last five months have been punctuated with Skype dates and Facebook messages. That’s where I backtracked. After all of this personal growth and all of the wonderful things I’ve experienced, I backtracked big time.

Alan has peppered my posts (actually he has been 75% of them) since I started this blog six years ago. He was my first love and he was the boy that taught me everything about playing hard to get and flirting. I fell hard and fast for someone I barely knew and he turned out to be an incredible asshole, but for reason I couldn’t escape him. Over the years we had every fight imaginable and we went months on end without a word passing between us. We dated other people and tried to move on. We each grew up and matured in many ways. However, a lot of things didn’t change. His name still made my breathing shallow. His voice made my chest constrict. He still drove me crazy in every way possible.

When I was in San Diego this summer, I was less than a mile from him. I posted Snapchats so he would know I was there in hopes that he might come to me. Jake had made it very clear that I wasn’t to talk to Alan, but I couldn’t help it if he texted me, right? So he did. He texted me and we had yet another hard conversation that was strained by the fact that we were in love with each other but I was still with Jake.

When I finally broke up with Jake a couple of months later, I went straight to Alan. I emailed him (since he was on deployment) and things kind of picked up right where we left them. I would feel bad about this regression except two things are different now.

1. He has grown up a lot. The realization that I almost married Jake and he would have lost me forever paired with the time he has spent in the Navy has led to a much older, much more mature Alan.

2. We are a couple officially for the first time in seven years. He told me he couldn’t chance losing me again and that he loved me and wouldn’t ever let me go.

Since then, things have been wonderful. He is thoughtful and sweet. We still bicker and we will fight I’m sure, but he definitely cares about me and wants nothing more than to take care of me.

He is already talking about getting married. Since I’m spending the summer with him in California, I imagine I’ll come back with an engagement ring. People will say it’s fast since we will only have been together six or seven months, but in truth it’s been long enough. I know I love him. I’ve always loved him.

But we will just see how the summer goes…

Once In A Lifetime

His breath slowed as he slipped into a deep, peaceful sleep. She lay awake, listening to him and the sound of his breath. His arm was draped over her and his head was resting on her chest. It was perfectly pleasant and she hated it. She felt disgusting and lonely as she felt his chest move against her side with each long breath he took. He began to snore slightly. He really was precious, but she loathed snoring.

She turned her head and looked through the window at the full moon that hung in the sky. Moonlight spilled through the glass and across her naked body like a spotlight that was highlighting what she’d done. Tears welled up in her eyes as she thought of him and wondered if he was thinking of her too.

It had been a little over two years since she’d seen him last. They had had a very difficult relationship with many ups and downs in the time that they’d known each other. But in all eight years, through all of the other relationships, the distance, and the college experiences there had been one constant: their love for each other.

And A Happy New Year

Today was the happiest and the best Christmas I’ve ever had. I handmade all of the presents I gave my family. I had a blast doing so and they really seemed to enjoy them more than if I’d just bought everything. It was way more personal and meant a lot more to me. But that wasn’t what made this year special.

Today I had a Skype date with the love of my life. He is currently on deployment and I hadn’t heard from him much in the past month. Dating a military man is hard. We have it pretty good because he gets to email me or we get to IM on Facebook every four days or so. It’s way better than nothing. But after a while, the ache you have in your heart becomes harder and harder to bear.

Two days ago I woke up to a Skype phone call from him. We talked for two hours before he made me hang up and go to sleep. We spoke a couple more times over the next twenty-four hours. Basically, as much as we could talk, we did. I hadn’t expected to hear from him, so rolling over and hearing the tone that told me I had an incoming call was by far the best Christmas present I could have gotten.

We smiled and laughed and talked about the future. We talked about the Summer and getting married as well as having kids or what kinds of pets we want. We talked about everything under the sun and poked fun at each other for hours. It was fabulous. Literally a dream come true.

Today I was on my way to my parent’s house for a celebration and he called again. I pulled over and we talked and he told me Merry Christmas. He couldn’t stop telling me he loved me and that he missed me. He called me baby. He said all the right things. He told me he wanted to marry me and we pictured a possible wedding. We pictured what this summer together will be like. We pictured life together and talked about cars and houses and what not. He was constantly reassuring me that if I wanted it, I could have it. He was promising to take care of me and make me happy.

I trust him. I shouldn’t, given the history, but I do. I do, totally. I waited for him. I knew that he was the one from the day I fell in love with him. I waited while he experienced life and grew up. Now he has come back to me and it looks like this is actually going to work.

So from the love in my heart and the joy at this being the most honestly fantastic Christmas I’ve ever experienced, Merry Christmas, and a Happy New Year.

Love Isn’t Real

I think I’ve reached a point where I have broken. After being self-identified as being a writer for my entire life, I’ve changed. I was a writer because I was a hopeless romantic. I believed in Pride and Prejudice romance and a love like Elizabeth’s and Mr. Darcy’s. The deep music and the strong words made me feel things I couldn’t begin to describe. My heart would swell and I would feel what they felt for a time.

Now, after a couple of dead end relationships and a failure at a new connection, I find myself totally complacent. The writer in me has been totally snuffed out. I walk around thinking about life and thinking about love, but I don’t hold it in the same regard as I used to. I used to think about true love and what it meant to me. I would imagine the day I met “The One”. I would imagine bumping into each other in a coffee shop and being hooked at first sight. I have started to realize that “love at first sight” isn’t a thing. We live in a time that has been totally taken over by technology.

Love isn’t real. Infatuation is a great thing. It makes us feel like we can touch the sun without getting burned, but that’s part of the honeymoon phase. That “love” fades and we are left with someone that we now have to get to know in a real way. Love is the stuff that keeps  you going once you know everything about that person and you’ve seen their darkness, but you choose to stay. Love is a choice. It isn’t a feeling. It isn’t fire or passion. It isn’t crazy and intense. It’s just comfortable. It’s finding your best friend and enjoying sex with them at the same time.

I want something extraordinary. I haven’t ever been the kind of girl that asked for much, but that’s where I won’t sacrifice. I have a very simple list of what I want out of a man. I want someone that will treat me like a princess, tell me he loves me and that he thinks I’m the most beautiful girl in the world, and brings me home little trinkets every so often because they made him think of me. I don’t want someone that is a fixer. I want someone to fix me. I’ve been broken and beaten down too many times to get back up on my own now. I want someone to help me fight the darkness with a crazy, happy, joking personality. I want someone that will say, “You can have whatever you want baby.” I’ll never ask for much, but I want to know that he would do that for me.

It’s all of these things that tell me that I’ll end up an old cat lady. I know I’m not needy or clingy and I’m not high maintenance. I make every attempt in the world to make my man feel loved, but I always end up getting taken advantage of. I’m sick of it. So what’s the answer? Don’t even go there. Just avoid it all together. So now I’ll be realistic. Find someone I can keep it casual with. Find someone I can just enjoy being around without anything getting too serious. Because love isn’t real.

If you took the time to read back through my posts from the past six years, you’d find a common theme. He has been in and out of my life for eight years now. For the first time, things are actually looking halfway decent for us.

I was young and stupid and I fell in love with the older guy that had a toxic smile. He made my heart flutter and a look from him sent me into a nervous fit of giggles. He always had a ridiculous effect on me. Our relationship was strained. We bickered and fought all the time. We went through spells where we wouldn’t talk at all. Every time I’d pass him in the hallway, I felt drawn to him. I always wanted to text him. I always wanted to be near him. It would take hours and a book or two to replay all of the interactions and all of the times that he left me breathless. I hope that one day I’ll actually put the good stuff into a book.

Our times together were always like a fairy tale. Our first almost-kiss, our first actual kiss, our Skype dates, our late night phone calls, sneaking out to meet, the first night that we spent together….all of it peppered with the forces in our life trying to keep us apart. The hardest was this summer when I was in San Diego. I walked right past the ship that he was on. We were within 200 yards of each other but I couldn’t go see him. I couldn’t talk to him. It was actual agony.

When I broke up with my boyfriend of almost two years, Alan came right back into the picture. He swears up and down he isn’t going to lose me again. He started talking about getting married someday and being together when I move to San Diego at the end of next year. I am starting to let myself believe that this time it’ll work. I’m not sure and I don’t know if it will end in tears again. I do know that I have to try. After all this time, it’s pointless to deny that he is anything other than my first love and my Achilles heel. I’ve loved him as long as I can remember. He has always been my “What if” guy. He was always the passionate, spicy, intense, tortured love that I believe they all should be like. If we are being perfectly honest, I’ve compared all of my flames to him. How could I not? I am a hopeless romantic and he makes me believe.

So yesterday we were chatting on Facebook. Our latest issue is that he is an Enlisted sailor and I’ll be an Officer at the end of next year. In the rules of the Navy, a relationship between us would be fraternization. Fraternization is a huge no-no. It’s grounds for the end to a career that hasn’t even started yet. We are currently investigating ways to get around the rules since this is a well-established prior existing relationship. I got upset yesterday because for the umpteenth time, it all seems to hopeless. I said, “This is the most complicated mess.” He replied, “I’m sorry. But I can’t unlove you.”

I know that everything is a mess and I know that the odds are never in our favor, but I also know that I love him. Our love has withstood the tests of time. We have lasted through eight years, other relationships, his parents hating me and vice versa, friend drama, deployments, and long spells of not even talking. This is just another bump in the road, but I’m starting to realize that NOTHING can keep us apart.

Full Circle

It’s fascinating to see how life changes and moves along while relationships evolve and fizzle out. The friends you thought were forever might not make it past the first year of college. Your first love might have seemed like the end all be all, but you may just realize that life holds bigger and better cards. The truth is that you never know how things are going to turn out. I’ve learned to enjoy sitting back and letting life just happen.

I had grand plans for my life. I had giant dreams, but I stumbled through the first year of my adult life. I didn’t really get it together before my Sophomore year of college. Now, I’ve made all of my dreams come true and then some. I never in a million years figured I’d be where I am today.

I always wanted to join the Navy and see the world after doing well in college and enjoying being a college student. I’ve got the Navy right around the corner and I’ve begun to enjoy my college experience now that it’s my senior year.

But that isn’t what this is about.

Alan has been a staple in my life since I started High School 8 years ago. He has faded in and out of my life based on our temper tantrums or my boyfriends, but we always come back to the same place. We always come back to each other. Now, it finally seems like we are on the same page.

He was my first love. I fell so hard for the older guy when I was in high school. I had it bad. I followed him around like a poor little puppy dog and he didn’t give me the time of day. He was a pretty big jerk, but I was young and I didn’t know anything. I learned from that time in my life. I learned how not to be with me. I learned not to be clingy or needy or text your man too much. I learned how to play hard to get. It is because of this that I don’t regret anything. He has long since apologized for his behavior in our younger days.

In the next two years, our relationship was peppered with arguments. We would go two or three months on good terms and then we would have a falling out that would last three or four months. I’d have a new boyfriend that wouldn’t want me talking to him or he would go back into an asshole phase and break my heart. Basically, he was horrible and I let him be horrible because I loved him so much. I couldn’t stay away from him. I’d get mad and tell him I was done, but I’d always go back. It was exhausting and very confusing.

I got to college and broke up with my boyfriend of a year and a half. Alan and I were on good terms for a few months during my Sophomore year of college where we skyped every night. We talked about actually being a couple for a while, but always decided that the distance was keeping us apart. He was in the Navy so he came home twice a year at the most. He was very skeptical of the long distance relationship and so he refused to try things with us.

I got another boyfriend that lasted another year and a half. He hated Alan for the way that he had treated me in high school, but he never could understand why I still wanted to be friends with Alan. I would sneak texts once in a while and try to get Jake to be okay with me having a relationship with him.

The time I spent without being in contact with him was always agony. It got to be the worst it ever had been this past summer. I was in California. I was there for training with the Navy. I walked right past his ship and I knew he was on that base somewhere. I wanted to see him desperately but we weren’t allowed to talk because Jake had begged me to let him go. I had promised not to talk to him anymore, because my fiance-to-be should be granted a courtesy such as that. It felt like my heart was ripped into a million pieces knowing that he was within a mile of me and I couldn’t see him.

The minute Jake and I broke up, I ran straight to Alan. I felt an instant relief when I got an email back from him that first time. I was afraid he hated me. I was afraid he wouldn’t want anything to do with me due to the history. Instead, he has decided to snatch me up and hold on to me. We have been emailing and skyping every chance we get and I’ve never been happier. Honestly, I think the fact that Jake and I were planning on getting married was his wake up call. He has had a couple of years to grow up and he definitely has. Now he is ready for the relationship that has always been something special.

He started talking about getting married yesterday. While I’m nowhere near ready to breach that subject again, it is crazy to realize that seven years ago I decided I was going to marry him. I remember sitting in class and thinking that a love like this was too raw and too intense not to be real. I imagined our lives and our kids and our house. I melted every time he spoke to me. His voice drove me wild and being around him always made my heart go a million miles an hour. Eight years later, he still has that effect on me.

So after all of that….all of the ups and the downs….all of the back and forth and the arguments, we are here. We are talking. We are in love. Things have changed, but all for the better. I’m not going to jinx it or get too excited by thinking about the possibilities, but I’m going to let things happen.

And if, someday, he pops the question, I might just say yes.

Communication is Key

So, I recently got out of a long-term relationship. I’m struggling, but no one really seems to understand why. I’m not really coping with the loss. I’m fully aware that it was for the best. I’m more dealing with the life changes. I’m not sad, I’m confused. In the course of a couple of days and a single decision, my outlook on life and my two year plan completely changed. My life has literally been turned upside down.

He was Prince Charming when I met him. He was fun to be around, amazingly thoughtful, so considerate, and incredibly sensitive. Yeah, yeah, I know they’re amazing when you meet them. But we were perfect. HE was perfect. The first year was bliss. In the second week we were dating, I knew I’d met the one. He was everything I’d ever wanted and he only kept getting better. We went out on dates and he surprised me with two dozen roses “just because”. There were so many things like that. But the temper began to emerge.

Marines are a force to be reckoned with. They’re scary guys when they need to be. That’s why they protect our country. They are a special breed that is very difficult to live with, but if you can put up with them, they’re the most loyal people you’ll ever know. They are protective and honest, but they have massive issues. Some have more issues than others and no two Marines seem to have the same set of issues. Anger was his. How could the sweetest man on the planet be showering me with love one minute and scaring the fire out of me the next?

I stuck around for almost two years, making excuses and thinking and praying that things would get better. I think he finally realized I was going to leave him and he started to shape up at the very end, but it was too little too late. At that point, there was too much poison in our relationship for it to ever be removed. So I made the right choice and I jumped ship before we could grow to hate each other. We are on very good terms, which is nice sometimes but it’s very tough at other times.

He picked out a ring. We were basically engaged. We broke up. My other half is gone. I’m not getting married. I literally don’t know what to do with myself. I don’t know how to feel or how to act or what to spend my time on. Guy friends are coming to me and telling me they’ve liked me for so long and that they want to date me, but I’m numb. I don’t feel anything. I don’t believe in love anymore. I don’t believe I’ll get married anymore. I’m not being a cynic and I’m not bitter, I just don’t know how two people can love each other so fiercely but they still can’t make it work.

My sister introduced me to a man that was so handsome he looked like he belonged on the cover of GQ. We hit it off and hung out four or five times. Things were going really well at first, but he started to back off drastically. After the last night we hung out, he just stopped texting me or calling me all together. After just having broken up with someone, I was actually freaking out. I know we didn’t have some fantastic relationship with so much work put into it, but I wondered what went wrong. We were casually spending some time together. We had fun. I thought I might like him a little. So what happened?

I spent a week going over everything in my head. Did I text him too often? Was I annoying? Was I too whatever or not enough something? I drove myself crazy. I’m new to the dating scene and I’m rusty on all the techniques. I came to find out through a backdoor third party that he is just a commitment-phobe. That made me laugh. Who in their right mind would think that a girl that just got out of a long-term, very serious relationship would be seeking another one less than two months later? No sir. I was only looking to live a little and to experience life. I want to meet people, make friends, enjoy what’s left of my college experience, and make some memories. I’m moving across the country next year. I’m not looking for a white picket fence with some guy I just met. Starting anything at this point is futile.

So after days of freaking myself out and wondering what I did wrong, I came to find out it wasn’t me at all. I came to find out he is a goofball and he just missing out because he won’t just talk to me about everything. SO I suppose this is just a couple of words of advice for all the single men out there. Don’t run before you know what she’s after! She might just be looking for a good time that you just gave up on. Communication is key.

The Break-Up

I find it funny that everyone told me how wonderful we were together and how we gave them hope for finding love, but now their stories have changed. Now, they say, “You’re better off without him. He is the biggest idiot for letting you go.” I was under some sort of spell. I made excuses for him and I gave him passes on far too many mistakes, until it finally just ruined us.

We have been apart for about a month now. I have to say, once I got past all the tears, I was happier. I felt free, finally. Granted, the break-up hardly feels real. It kind of feels like nothing has changed. I think that’s really sad because that means that I felt broken up with long before it actually happened. The main difference is that now, when he starts acting stupid, I don’t have to put up with it. I can walk away or hang up the phone and choose not to listen to the bullshit. I’m free. I feel free.

So we were arguing one day. It was dramatic and I was crying and I was so tired of arguing. It felt like that’s all we ever did. I was never happy to see him. I’d actually started to dread it because I knew it would lead to arguments or some sort of stupid frustration. We were arguing though and he got really pissed (as he always did) and said he was breaking up with me. This time I didn’t stop it. I didn’t beg him. I didn’t say, “You don’t mean that.” I just sat there. He looked at me, clearly waiting for the typical response, and realized that this was actually happening. I cried a lot. We sat in the car for a while and talked some, but I mostly just sobbed. It’s so hard to let go of something that was a part of your life for so long. Especially someone you literally spent every waking moment with. In the end, it was mutual.

Gradually, he is seeing that he was an idiot. I’m steadily learning to enjoy my life. I can go out when I want to. I can eat what I want to. No one gets mad at me for not working out or for indulging in a cupcake. No one gets pissy with me for stupid shit. No one keeps me up half the night because they are too sidetracked to do their homework during the day. He isn’t around to make me baby him. I don’t have to hold his hand and walk him through the simple shit anymore. I’m so happy to be free.

I’ve gone out to bars and made new friends. I have gone to a football game with buddies and had a really weird version of a tailgating experience. I’ve made plans to experience Halloween the real way (especially since it’s homecoming). And I’ve met someone.

The someone is drool worthy gorgeous. He is the type of person you could fall hopelessly in love with in a second. He is smart and charismatic and just a blast to be around. He is the person that everyone instantly loves and that everyone wants to be around. While I’m very much enjoying getting to know him, he came at the worst possible time in my life. He isn’t a rebound kind of guy. He is a serious boyfriend kind of guy. I need to enjoy college and live the last year here before I become an adult. I need to live no strings attached. But this guy is going to make that very difficult. I’m determined not to fall in love with him. I determined not to get too attached. But that smile….it’s killer, ladies. Let me tell you.

Anyway, things are looking up. I’m happier. I’m in a better place. And I’m getting out of my comfort zone a little more each week. I’m going to learn to be independent. I’m going to make four years worth of memories. I’m going to enjoy every minute of the rest of my college experience.

This is it.

Here goes nothing.

One Night

The floorboards creaked with every step she took. Her heart stopped with every sound. She had to be quiet. If she woke her parents, it would all be over. Each creak was resounding in the dead silence of the house. That was the cost of sneaking out at 1:30 in the morning. After what felt like a lifetime, she reached the carpeted floor of the living room. This part of the house didn’t creak as much and it was further away from her parent’s room so it was much safer. She padded over to the front door and opened it as slowly as was humanly possible. Once it was open far enough for her to slip through, she stopped to listen for any signs that she had woken her parents. Silence. With that, she slipped through the door and into the night.

It was pitch black outside. The moon was hidden behind a cloud and it was almost impossible to see. The stars were hidden and the trees kept out whatever moonlight was peeking through the clouds. Carefully she crossed the porch and stepped onto the safety of the driveway. She was home free. As long as her parents didn’t decide to check on her at 2 a.m. for some reason, she would be safe. Adrenaline pumped through her veins as she walked down her driveway. Even though it was pitch black, she knew the way. The route was one she had walked a million times, but never for this reason. This was a first.

She rounded the corner of the street and saw a shape forming in the distance. She was pretty sure it was him. Who else would be out here at this time of night? They’d agreed to meet right around the corner from her house in case she needed to be home quickly. She hurried toward the shape, anxious to be there and to see him. This was all so exciting. He had never done anything like this with her. He had never asked her to meet him like this. He had been so insistent. He had left a party to come meet her. Why was he so anxious to see her? Her heart was pounding in her chest and her hands were shaking. She hated that her body always gave her away. She was always a ball of nerves around him, while he seemed to always be cool and collected. It just wasn’t fair.

“Is that you?” she whispered. She had never seen this truck before and she didn’t see him standing beside it as she had expected. It appeared to be abandoned. But then she heard a chuckle and the light from within the cab of the truck came to life.

“Who else would it be?” he asked, obviously amused by the stupidity of the question.

She walked up to him and looked at his face in the soft moonlight. She could barely see him, but her heart swelled. He leaned up against the truck and looked at her casually. Why couldn’t she be so calm? Her palms started to sweat. She hated that he made her like this.

“What was so important that I had to sneak out of the house in the middle of the night to see you for?” she asked. Rude always worked. It made her seem less nervous.

“I just wanted to see you. I was in the area and I thought it would be fun to just…drop by.”

“The party wasn’t a blast?” she asked.

“It was okay. Played some beer pong. Won some money. No biggie.”

“Wait you drank and then you drove?”

“I only had a couple of beers. I am entirely fine,” he replied. This annoyed her. How could he be so careless?

“You shouldn’t be drinking and driving. That is so stupid. You could get in a lot of trouble or you could seriously get hurt!” she exclaimed. She couldn’t bear the thought of something happening to him.

“Give me a sobriety test now if you don’t believe me. Come here. Smell my breath,” he offered. She started to move toward him, but then she realized what he was asking. Her breath caught in her throat. She would be so close to his mouth. Close enough to kiss. But he didn’t want to kiss her. No way.

“I’ll just take your word for it,” she replied. A little smirk crossed his face. Infuriating.

“Aww you’re no fun.” He had always known just how to push her buttons. There was silence between them as she fiddled with the edge of her shirt. The boy that was leaning up against the truck was the boy she had been in love with for years. Three long years to be exact. He had toyed with her and mistreated her more times than she could remember, but she kept forgiving him. He knew exactly how to get under her skin and exactly how to make her melt. She felt totally helpless when she was around him, but tonight she was determined to hold her own no matter what.

“Why would you say that? If I’m no fun, why would you drive all the way out here to see me?” she asked.

“Well you can be fun. Sometimes,” he replied.

“You don’t even care about me. You could care less about me. You probably just came out here because you were bored.” All of the joking left his voice. He became very serious as he pondered what she had just said.

“You know that’s not true,” he answered quietly.

“Oh it’s not? Could’ve fooled me. You never cared about me. You’ve told me you loved me and you’ve said you want to be with me, but are we together? No.” She was getting pretty worked up. Angry worked sometimes with him. She began to shake, partially from the anger and partially from the nervousness that he induced. She began to pace.

“Lindsay, you know that’s not true. I do want to be with you, I just cant. My-“

“Yeah I know. You’re parents,” she snapped. “You’ve made up excuses like that but then you come to see me anyway. You tell me you love me anyway. Imagine how that makes me feel. I look like the stupid idiot because I’m in love with someone who won’t give me the time of day. You only pay attention to me in the middle of the night where no one else can see.” Tears welled up in her eyes. She blinked quickly and began to walk a little faster.

“Lindsay, don’t say that. You know I care about you. You know I want to be with you. I just-“

“No. I’m so tired of excuses. If you really wanted me, we could make it work. I’ve told you a dozen times how we could make it work. You just don’t even want to try.” More tears welled up in her eyes. She was grateful for the darkness.

“Would you stop pacing like that? You’re making me nervous.”

“Good. It’s good for you to feel how I always do,” she replied before she realized what she was saying. She stopped midstep and turned to look at him. He had that stupid smirk on again. She whirled around and resumed her pacing.

“I make you nervous?” he asked, amused.

“Shut up, Seth. That just isn’t fair. You know you do,” she answered, regretting having ever told him that. He chuckled again. “I just can’t do this anymore. I don’t want to. I can’t keep being the dumb girl that everyone laughs at for being so naïve.”

“Lindsay-“

“No I’m done. Don’t-“ she began before he interrupted.

“Damn it woman. Listen to me. I do love you! I do want to be with you! You’re beautiful and infuriating and amazing and if you don’t stop pacing right this minute, I’m going to make you stop!” he threatened.

“Oh yeah right. Like you’re going to do anything.” Just as she walked in front of him, he reached out and snagged her arm. She turned around to tell him to let go, but his lips were there. She turned right into him as he pulled her closer. Her mind began to race as she felt the softness of his lips. Her lips parted as his arms snaked around her waist. She put her arms around his neck, all anger forgotten. His tongue was cool as it traced her bottom lip. She felt light headed, but she didn’t stop. She had waited three years for this and she wasn’t going to pass it up.

The intensity of the kiss increased as they became familiar with one another’s mouths. She began to breath more heavily and his hands began to grab her back tightly. Then, just as quickly as it had begun, it ended. He rested his forehead on hers and panted softly.

“I can’t believe it took me three years to get you to kiss me,” he said. She smiled, having forgotten that she was even angry. This was why she loved him. There was so much passion in their relationship. They could fight one minute and have a mind-blowing first kiss the next.

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