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Loving You Long Distance

Being apart is hard. On the bad days I can’t just come home and cuddle up with you on the couch. On the good days we can’t laugh together and celebrate. On the taxing days we can’t comfort each other as we figure out a plan of action. All we have are our words. We comfort and figure things out together through Skype dates and long phone calls. We talk everything through and do our best not to get bogged down by the circumstances.

Yes it sucks, but we are stronger for it.

Communicating is definitely the hardest thing in any relationship. Most of the time, couples take years and therapy to start speaking the same language. Women blow things out of proportion and speak in haste while men say things they don’t really mean and don’t bother to think before they speak. It’s a terrible circumstance but one that is totally unavoidable.

Women are unreasonable in many ways. We read way to far into things and we hold grudges over what we think someone meant instead of taking their words at face value. This has definitely gotten even worse with the introduction of texting and instant messaging. Sarcasm and playful inflections are lost in a text, leaving the words to interpretation. The reader can glean two entirely different meanings from a text based on their mood or another conversation they might be having at the same time. The divided attention paired with the difference in personality leaves a whole lot of room for misinterpretation.

Alan and I have definitely had to figure out our way around these things. He is a man so he doesn’t think about things he says nearly as much as I do. I’m still not great at it, but I’m definitely more forgiving when he says something stupid and I blow it out of proportion. We take five minutes to relax and then we come back and discuss the situation again.

But how do we make it all work? How do we push through the bad days to get to the good? Yeah it gets hard but looking forward is the key. We Skype most nights and talk on the phone every night. We cook dinner at the same time and watch movies at the same time. Just the other day he asked me to send him a document. I included a picture from a boudoir shoot I did before the wedding. It’s not much but he’ll get a nice little surprise when he opens the envelope today. It’s all about being thoughtful and arranging little things to make someone smile.

He loves getting notes. I write notes and hide them all through his apartment before I leave each time. I found a letter I wrote him months ago so I folded it up and sent it to him. It’s the little things that make it all work.

So I’m not saying there is a perfect recipe. Obviously see each other as much as you can and work on communicating, but just be thoughtful. Try to do things together. Try to send little surprises to make an ordinary day a little less ordinary. Of course, there is the major perk that when you see each other it feels like the first time. The spark is never gone. <3

The Week After

So I had an incredible honeymoon. We ran around Grand Cayman and did honeymoon things. Laid on the beach and gawked at the incredibly clear, blue water. We swam with stingrays and ate the most incredible dinners. We hung out at the pool and went adventuring a time or two. The first night of the honeymoon we even went to see a STL Cardinals game. So it was overall pretty awesome.

Then I came home.

I got pretty teary eyed at the airport when we said goodbye. I was morose the whole next twenty-four hours. I got in to school the next day and it seemed like a storm had just been waiting for me. The minute I stepped back on that campus everything went straight to hell. I got a progress report that said I had a D in a class I thought I had a B in. Came to find out that was because I was counted as having two zeroes for assignments that were due while I was gone. Once I turn those in it’ll be fine.

My unit just fell apart in my absence. It wasn’t that I wasn’t there. It has kind of just been a long time coming. So everyone was running around doing crazy shit. I got yelled at over and over again because that’s what happens when you’re in charge. Your people fuck up, you get the heat. I was literally one day off the island and getting yelled at four or five times a day. Everyone was telling me I sucked and I was a shitty leader and that I needed to fix this when in reality this has been a problem that I can’t control. But ya gotta try right?

Wednesday started to look up as I started to implement plans for getting the ship righted again, but then it just got even more bad. I got an email telling me I had a test Friday (today) that is kind of a big deal. First, I thought it would be the final in the class meaning I still had two months to study. Second, it’s my senior exit exam so if I don’t pass I don’t graduate. I had two days to study everything I learned in four years. Holy shit.

The last two days have been a whirlwind of study material. I went so hard that I came home to take a nap last night before waking up to study more and wasn’t able to open my eyes until I’d been asleep 12 hours. It was bad. So now, here I am, taking a quick study break before heading back to work. I have a couple of hours before the test and a huge cup of coffee next to me because despite having slept that long, I’m still exhausted.

Going to go kick this test’s ass and then come home and watch some serious Netflix for a couple of hours before heading to work. Fingers crossed and prayers that I nip this thing in the bud.

Oh and I woke up with Pink Eye. Awesome.

I’d give anything at all to be back on the island with my hubby instead of counting down the days until I go pick him up from the airport. Only 24 more though. <3

The Wedding

So I got married a little over a week ago. I married the man of my dreams. Yeah I know, everyone says that. But for us, it’s totally true. We have been involved since my freshman year of high school (almost 9 years ago). I fell in love with him the moment I saw him. Took him a little longer, but ya know, whatever we got there right? Well it was a dream come true when he proposed. A grand majority of my friends were like, dude finally even though when we got engaged we had only seen each other once in two years and had only been officially dating for a little over three months. Yeah it seems fast, but if you knew our story you’d know that this was a long time coming and it was good to finally succumb to the inevitable.

The honeymoon was magic. We spent a night in St. Louis and saw a Cardinals game. We then flew to Grand Cayman and spent a week in Tortuga. The island was incredible and the food was to die for (I’m a total foodie). The water was so beautiful. We swam with stingrays and held them. We were hanging out at Starfish Point and saw a couple of giant starfish just chilling in the water. We swam in the ocean and in the infinity pool by the ocean. (I love the beach in case you hadn’t gathered as much.) It was just incredible.

The wedding, though, was something else. I want girls to read this and hopefully get a reality check so maybe they won’t be miserable on the wedding day.

Wedding day arrived. I had some errands and a minor crisis to take care of not to mention it was raining (and the ceremony was outdoors). Finally started getting ready an hour late, but it all worked out. We did a first look that was wonderful. He surprised me by actually showing more than the characteristic smirk. Walked down the aisle and said our vows (which we wrote). His were way better than mine and I’m the writer between us so I was entirely shocked that he did so well.

The reception was a train wreck. It was set up in a gym (much to my dismay) with no alcohol (also annoying) and the size of the gym dwarfed the number of people. So it looked like no one was there. The DJ acted like he had no idea what he was doing. My sister gave a pitiful speech ( I think she was buzzed) that was sweet but it was obvious that she was making it up as she went along. My dad was a nazi about the lights and wouldn’t leave them off for some stupid reason. We took dance lessons for our first dance and yet no one clapped or acted like we had done the amazing thing that we had (we both have two left feet and no dance experience before this). My second bridesmaid was on her own program. She was absent half the time we were trying to take pictures and she changed before everything was really over. She had to go put her dress back on to finish the pictures. The bubble machine for the grand exit broke at the last minute. Overall the whole thing was embarrassing and we ended up just skipping the garter toss and the bouquet toss because I was frustrated and ready to head to the after party. It was over in less than a hour.

The after party was awesome. We ate killer BBQ, played beer pong and corn hole, did some super awesome crafty paint thing, and just sat around the fire drinking. It was chill and very very fun – total redemption.

My sister proceeded to get drunk and try to drive home to the point that someone had to come wake me up twice – once to talk to her about it and the second time to physically take her keys. I was pretty peeved.

So here is the advice. Girls, if you’re doing a wedding on a budget, don’t expect the fairytale. Unless you have a $50,000 budget and parents that will do whatever you ask, you aren’t going to have everything you want. You’ll have to make compromises and give things up. Things won’t look exactly how you pictured them or how they looked on Pinterest.

Hire a wedding planner. My mom was mine and she tended to go a little off the books with the ideas. If I had an idea, it tended to get shot down or altered. A wedding planner is only there to serve you. You make all the decisions and they do the leg work. They also make the day of much easier. My mom was stretched too thin. It would have been great to have someone with a level head running around with a plan.

Focus on the important things. My husband surprised me with the most incredible vows. I got to marry the man off my dreams. The guys looked great and my dress was totally perfect. The big things were there. I got too caught up in the little things.

I was just looking at pictures from the wedding and I realized that the whole thing really was beautiful. Yes there were some hitches, but overall it turned out to be pretty nice. So don’t get bogged down in what goes wrong. Be positive or you’re going to be miserable.

My mom did a great job. She worked very hard and brought together something really great even if it wasn’t what I pictured, but I was too caught up in what wasn’t there to really enjoy it. Just be realistic when planning the wedding.


I finally got the pictures back. K. Stoddard Photography did an outstanding job. They turned out beautifully and totally captured the essence of the day!

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It rained but we made the most of it. The lighting was beautiful and we were able to catch this reflection photo.

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This was right after our first look. He isn’t an emotional guy but his eyes got a bit misty that day.

My Last Summer

Well….The summer is almost over. I cannot begin to tell you how sad that makes me for a host of reasons. It means leaving Alan. It means going back to Memphis. It means school is starting again. It means I actually have to look at reality and be an adult now. I have to conquer my last semester of my Undergrad Bachelor’s of Science. I have to vanquish my senior project (which looks like a train wreck right now and is already a month behind schedule). I have to get married. Wait….what?

So I’ve spent the summer in California with the love of my life. I’ve traipsed all over San Diego and seen L.A. I’ve gone to the Safari Park and am going to Sea World this week. I’ve eaten a ridiculous amount of horribly unhealthy food and have gained so much perspective on life. I have kayaked in the Pacific and seen sea lions swimming a foot away from me. I have seen more of this great country than I ever thought I would. All of these adventures and the whole feel of the city around me makes me regret going to school in Tennessee. I would have loved to have lived out here and gone to college here. I can’t help but imagine how different my life would be if I’d come here for school and hadn’t gotten into ROTC. I can definitely say that it would have been a thousand times more fun and I probably would have learned to surf. I definitely would be a lot more tan and in shape because I know I’d have spent most of my free time out on the water or hiking.

Anyway, the summer is drawing to a close and I’m heading home next week. Time to tackle my last semester of being a young adult. In December, everything is going to be so real. I’m getting married in September. I’m graduating and commissioning into the Navy in December. I’m moving to a new state which is scary since I’ve only lived in Tennessee my entire life. I’ll be heading to a new job and a new life and I’ll be totally alone. My hubby and I won’t be stationed together. So I have to be an adult very soon.

At least it’s been an amazing summer.


Aloha! Well I just spent a couple of very solid days on the gorgeous island of Oahu. I flew out on Tuesday and was waiting for my man when he walked off the ship on Wednesday afternoon. The next couple of days flew by but they were genuinely a dream come true. I mean, come on. A few days in paradise with the love of your life? Sounds as good as it was.

Seeing someone after such a long time is sort of an out-of-body experience. The ship was on the horizon for about an hour before it was close enough that we could see that they were really booking it. Once the ship was up next to us steaming through the channel in all its awesome power and glory, my heart lept to my throat. I could see sailors standing on the flight deck in their dress whites, ready to render salutes to the memorials. He was up there somewhere. After a little over two years, he was within shouting distance. No, I didn’t cry. I don’t cry. But I very nearly did. It took a serious pep talk to keep those tears from collecting.

When I saw his face, my heart literally stopped. I could tell he was nervous by the way he was walking, but when he looked at me it was like all was right with the world. There was a second at first when we were trying to read each other. We stopped and were trying to decide how to handle the situation. Do I put my stuff down? Do I hug you first? Kiss then hug? Handshake? What? I just went straight for the hug to try to take some of the awkward out of the moment as well as to keep myself standing upright, because I was a smidge weak in the knees and very shaky from all the nerves.

I finally worked up the nerve to kiss him and while it was strange at first, it became one of the most natural feelings I’ve ever experienced. The first kiss wasn’t some awe-inspiring, movie moment, but it was real. It was the culmination of a very long distance, very serious relationship and it was real for the first time in so long.

We spent the next couple of hours being awkward and trying to figure out how to be normal with each other. Our relationship has been incredibly strange. This week was the first time for a lot of things. It was the first time we’d ever been seen in public together, our first date, the first time we’d had sex. I mean, it was an incredibly eventful week.

Normally when the boys are in port, they do a ton of shopping and drinking. Half of that sounds logical, but shopping? You’d be surprised. Well we did a ton of shopping and had drinks with meals but didn’t drink in excess. I suppose the need wasn’t there. Instead we spent hours just cuddled up with each other in the hotel room, talking about anything and everything. Somehow we never ran out of things to talk about. For three whole days, I think there was one moment of silence, but it was only because we were both pretty deep in thought. It was incredible. We went out to eat and spent a little time on the beach and a ton of time shopping. We went and met up with a giant part of my family that I hadn’t seen in fifteen years. Most importantly, I kissed him every chance I got.

So let me talk about the Chongs for a moment. There is a side of my family that I pretty much only knew existed. The majority of them live in Hawaii so we don’t see a whole lot of them, especially since our family doesn’t really do reunions anymore. Alan and I went up to my Great Aunt’s house for dinner. It turned out to be a great night. Easy conversation with great people. They’re a loving group of people and very fun to be around. That’s the most family I have had in years. When my mom died, everyone went their separate ways. For the most part, since then, I haven’t had more than about three family members in the same room at a time so to be surrounded by such a big, happy family was a little overwhelming. Somehow he understood and we just rode back to the hotel in silence. I will be forever grateful to him for letting me go meet up with them and taking time out of his leave to go do something like that for me, even though he claims he wouldn’t change a thing about our days together.

Sex was definitely something I was worried about. My rebound from Jake was this hot, macho, sexy man that showed me around the bedroom in a way I thought was only something women dreamed about. I never missed the guy once he disappeared from my life, but I definitely missed the sex. I thought nothing would ever compare to that carnal, raw, sweaty sex. I was wrong. Sex with Alan was so much better. It was real and passionate but fulfilling at the same time. I’ve never been able to orgasm the first time I slept with someone. I did with him.

When I left him and got back on the plane to head home, my heart broke. I understand love now in ways that I never did before. Our goodbye on the pier was sad and sincere, but as I saw him walking away I knew I didn’t want him to be sad. So I called out to him and made him smile just one more time with a silly goodbye even though my heart was breaking. When I landed in Memphis, I cried. I’ve lived in Memphis my whole life. It’s always been home, but for the first time in 22 years, it isn’t anymore. There is a saying that is one to live by. “Home is where the heart is.” My heart isn’t with me anymore. My heart is on that aircraft carrier with the love of my life. The only thing that made the goodbye bearable was knowing that it was only for a couple of days. He’ll be on his way home at the end of the week.

So, this week I learned that love is such a powerful thing. It’s needing the other person to be okay even when you aren’t. It’s sacrificing things you want to make them happy. Any it’s spending the rest of your life with someone you can’t breathe without.

If We Wrote Our Vows

There are moments in life that stand out to you and then there are moments that kind of knock the wind out of you and you realize life will never be the same. It was like that the day I met him.

I ran cross country my freshman year of high school. There was a day that the baseball team ran with us for some conditioning. He was in the pack of guys that I was trying to motivate. I told them not to stop running as I jogged past them, but then I stopped and walked. Go figure. They all got a kick out of that, naturally. He was in that group. I didn’t see him, but he saw me.

Fast forward to the end of January. I was in Coach Jones’ classroom getting ready to practice or for a game when my friend walked outside to talk to a guy. I looked up and saw him. He was so cute and I was just drawn to him so I went and stood next to her while she talked to him. He looked at me while he talked to her. We just stared at each other, hardly breaking eye contact. Even as he walked away, he looked back at me.

I felt my world shift that day. I knew something big was going to happen and I knew my life would never be the same. For me, it was love at first sight. It took me a few months to realize that’s what it was, but I fell for him and I fell hard. We had a hard time over the next five or six years. I was too intense and passionate and inexperienced and he had a lot of growing up to do. Actually, we both did. We kept track of each other, falling more and more in love as time passed. He went off into the Navy and saw the world while I stayed behind and went to school. I had a couple of failed attempts at relationships as I tried to convince myself I was over him and he wasn’t what I wanted.

We are done fighting it. I’ve been in love with him for almost 8 years and this year I’m going to marry him.

“The magic of first love is the ignorance that it can never end.” Except it didn’t. It just grew.


I can’t stop shaking. I’ve been shaking for two hours. I’m on the verge of tears.

There’s nothing like it when you get a phone call or a text saying someone you care about or cared about is in the hospital. That gut wrenching feeling that you should be there immediately and worrying if something horrible has happened that you won’t be able to make it in time.

I got that text today. Jake’s (my ex) mom texted me and told me he was in the ER. That he’d hit his head, passed out, and started throwing up. I panicked. We broke up in September and I pretty much hated his guts, but I had to go. I knew his girlfriend would probably be there, but I had to go.

When I got there he was surprised to see me, but so was the rest of the group. He was far from alone. Our Instructor was there. His Aunt, Uncle, two cousins, and girlfriend were there. While we stood there for a little while, his dad, step-mom, and step-brother showed up and his Mom and brother were on the way. It was a full house.

It’s not that I felt iced out or unwelcome. Quite the opposite actually. He talked to me and laughed with me. His aunt raved about how cute my snapchat stories of my kitty are. Everyone hugged me and said it was so good to see me and they’d missed me. I felt more loved with them than I do with even my own family. Meanwhile, Renee sat in the corner just gritting her teeth.

His mom was so grateful that I’d shown up, but she was texting me the whole time I was standing there. I told her he was fine and who all was there and she got upset. “Ugh I wish Renee would leave!” That was news. I thought they loved her. She went on to tell me that he doesn’t love her and that he still loves me. She said he lights up when he talks about me but that his face changes every time someone mentions my name. She said she prays we will get back together and that their whole family misses me being around. After I left she said that his aunt had sent her a snapchat of Jake. She replied to the snap by saying, “Oh he has that Clara smile.” His Aunt said, ” I was just thinking the same thing.”

Now I know this shouldn’t phase me. I’m getting married. I’m finally dating the right man. I’m finally happy. Jake was a monster. The majority of our relationship was a nightmare. He was mean and cruel and he was pretty much cheating on me for more than half of the time we were together. He always had a couple of girls that he texted more than he texted me and talked to very inappropriately. It was awful. Getting away from him was the best thing I ever did. I’m so much happier and so much better off.

So why do I feel like someone ripped my heart open?

The Dress

Everyone has dreams.

Kids grow up wanting to be princesses, knights, firemen, policemen, and just about anything else they can imagine. But just about every little girl has one singular dream that they hold on to well into their adult life: getting married.

From the first time they see Cinderella or the first time they can really comprehend the idea of being a princess for a day and marrying prince charming, little girls dream of what it’ll be like to get married one day. She pictures the wedding in detail, some details more outlandish than others, but she wishes and waits for their prince charming to come knock the wind of her with the whirlwind romance and the feelings of true love.

As long as I can remember, I’ve thought I was a princess. I wanted to get married more than anything in the world. Sure, being married was alright but I was mostly excited for the wedding. The afterwards wasn’t nearly as much of a consideration for me. Then, today, I went dress shopping. I tried on seven dresses total, but by the third one I knew I had found THE DRESS. I looked at myself in the mirror and teared up a little bit. The realization hit me like a ton of bricks as my mom walked around me taking pictures and commenting on how pretty it was: I am getting married.

I tried on a few more dresses but inevitably put THE DRESS back on and stared at myself in the mirror. It is perfect. It is love. It fits me like it was made for me. It is everything I’d ever dreamed it would be and then some.

The coolest part about planning the wedding, though, is that the wedding is going to be amazing, but I’m even more excited about being married. I’d elope if it was necessary, I’m just mostly excited for waking up next to him on Saturday mornings and drinking coffee on the porch together. I can see him mowing the yard or working in the garage while I clean the house. I can see grocery shopping with him and watching a movie with a glass of wine at the end of the week. Sure, the wedding will be amazing and it’ll be beautiful. Sure, it’ll be the happiest day of my life, but at the end of that day, I get to go home with the one person who is essential to my happiness and the only one that has ever made me feel whole.

Letters to Bootcamp

You know that saying, “You never know what you got til it’s gone”? Well I knew what I had, in a way, but even now it’s awful.

My sister left for bootcamp a couple of weeks ago. I’m beyond proud of her and I know she is kicking butt, but I miss her more than I ever imagined I would. In the last year, we became closer than I ever thought we could be. We went on two incredible trips together, saw many amazing movies, had tons of dinners, and countless phone calls. I’d call her to whine about anything and everything or just if I was bored. We talked and bonded constantly.

In January, we went to Gatlinburg for a ski trip. It was amazing and though I was tired of her and her friend Charles by the end of it, it was a week full of memories that I’ll never forget. In March, we drove to Universal Studios to see Harry Potter world. I’d already been once but I knew that was something she needed to see. Of course, the park has changed a lot in the past five years so it felt like the first time for me too. Over Christmas break, she spent a couple of weeks living with me. She stayed in Amber’s room because she was between the dorm and her boyfriend’s parents’ house. I just loved having her close.

Now, she has only been gone two weeks, but I’ve gone to pick up the phone to call her about a million times. Any time I want to see a movie or want to go to eat or want to do just about anything, I want to call her.

I am going dress shopping on Tuesday. While I’m incredibly excited, I’m so sad she won’t be there. She doesn’t even know we are getting married. I told her we were just going to do the Justice of the Peace thing this summer and do the real deal sometime in the Spring, but we decided to go ahead and do the full big shebang in September. She doesn’t know. We don’t have her contact information yet so I haven’t been able to write her and tell her.

I don’t know how we will make it in the future, being on opposite coasts or whatever is to come. We chose a complicated life. I’m just so lucky that I have so many wonderful friends and the most incredible man to help me through it all. I just can’t wait for my sister to have her phone and be able to talk to me again.

Anxious for the Future

Anxiety is a curious and terrible thing. I don’t think anyone has ever enjoyed being anxious and it isn’t something one can afford. My heart is constantly beating at an irregular pace, my stomach is in knots, and I’m incredibly distracted. I HATE it.

The worst thing about it is that you really can’t remedy the situation unless you’re apt at meditation or you ingest some for of medication. Neither of these things apply to me so I’m stuck with the sweaty palms and the not-so-restful sleep.

“What are you anxious about, Clara?” one might ask.

Well even if you don’t care, I’m going to tell you.

I have so many balls in the air right now. Life is happening. I’m growing up and my entire world will change within the next few months. There are too many big things on the horizon and to be honest, I don’t think I’m handling it very well. I’ve been sick to my stomach for a week and my best guess is it’s because Mess Night is tomorrow night.

Mess Night is a very traditional dining experience that has become an integral part of boosting morale and camaraderie within the military. All the branches have some sort of this tradition where we all gather for an evening of toasts, traditions, and fines. Fines are stories made to seem like horrible acts in order to embarrass the accused and send them to the grog. The grog is the most disgusting compilation of ingredients that the Vice President of the Mess is tasked with creating. To give you an idea, one year it had hot sauce, pickles, and dogfood in it (among other things).

This year, since I’m a senior, the pressure is on to levy a couple of fines. The past two years I’ve managed to fly under the radar. I haven’t gotten called on, nor have I had to partake of the grog. My shy side was more than appreciative. This year, however, there aren’t a whole lot of jokesters in the upperclassmen that can be counted on to keep the others entertained. As a result, I’ve prepared a few things to keep the night rolling. Hopefully it’ll all work out and be in good fun. Hopefully I’ll be able to get through my accusation without messing up or stuttering like an idiot under all the pressure. Hopefully I don’t have to drink grog. Fingers crossed.

So that’s a massive stressor on my mind right now. It may not seem like much but it’s a compilation of things I struggle with or hate.

Another giant thing on my mind is Alan. I’m afraid to jinx it given my history – especially since I almost agreed to marry my last idiot boyfriend. First, I get to talk to him on Skype for the first time in over a month. That’ll happen either tonight or tomorrow night. Second, there is still a whole lot in the air about my trip to San Diego to spend the summer with him and the trip to Hawaii to see him a couple of days early. It’s hard on me having all of this uncertainty and having so many variables still up in the air. I’m getting sick of the “Well we could” or “It might”. I want conformation and decision, but the Navy isn’t going to do what I want. I’m anxious about seeing him for the first time in almost three years. I’m anxious about spending the whole summer with him. I excited for that too. I’m anxious about the fact that we have been very seriously talking about getting married.

Okay, lemme defend myself. Yes, it’s soon. Yes, we are young. Yes, I’ve thought I was going to marry my last three boyfriends. But, I’ve loved Alan and only Alan so whole heartedly since I met him. I’ve never not loved him. I’ve never been able to let go of him. I’ve known him for years. We have a ton of history and we have a very prior-established relationship. It’s always been Alan. He was always the one I went back to. His is the name that gave me butterflies. His is the voice I longed to hear. I want to go hunting with him and see the world with him and watch Netflix with him and hide out in the mountains with him. I want everything with him. All of the other guys were me just lying to myself. I was just trying to convince  myself (and everyone else) that I was over him. I was sure we were over. I was sure that Jake was great and that he would get better after we were married. I was sure that there was no way it couldn’t work out. Plus I was scared of him and didn’t know how to break up with him.

When I see Alan I suppose I’ll know. But overall it’s a huge stress factor.

Sydney is leaving for bootcamp in a few days. She has become like my best friend lately and I’m going to miss her more than I’d ever imagined.

I’m going to graduate college and commission in the Navy and move from the only state I’ve ever lived in within a year.

Basically everything is changing. It’s terrifying more than it’s exciting at this point. I think I’ll be happier once I know where I’m going, if Alan and I will get married, and how Sydney is doing.

Plus, Mess Night being over with after tomorrow will probably help in the short term.

Anxiety is a bitch. I’ve got to start meditating.


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